fear of New Year's Eve firecrackers? Have you followed the many Guides and ignores your terrified dog, not only comforted, because comfort is indeed confirmation?
What is this if you yourself are afraid? Feel uncomfortable, right? A feeling that we would rather not do.
emotions were probably originally designed as the function to ensure survival. If something "pleasant" is we do it more and more (so yes, some scientists say that the fact that human females are anatomically able to find sex enjoyable, the human couple's relationship has stabilized to the rearing of the extremely long employed to guarantee children). If something "unpleasant", we avoid it. could feel a creature that does not fear would be reckless would be in danger and might not survive long.
can not abundant in our complicated world, our sense answers always keep pace with what we cognitively know about the world . Feelings are fast and it's not easy to influence them at will. This makes sense: if the risk actually is since , in front of us, it's better to react very quickly with fear, with a vanishing pulse and good blood circulation in the legs, and possible doubt ("this is really so dangerous? ") to postpone to a later date.
This really good organization means that we sometimes feelings on the sofa and even threaten to be overwhelmed by feelings of which we know full well that the situation is unsuitable.
This can be the fear of a spider in the corner, or anxiety after the television crime again in the dark to go out. It may be a disproportionate anger, anger that makes us go up and down, the rapidly throbbing heart, his face red all over - even if the cause may be insignificant, perhaps a neighbor heard loud music. And there are also adult reasonable people the fear of New Year's Eve fireworks or missiles!
How do we deal with such unpleasant feelings? In my observation, often after an attempt to escape the situation, and simultaneously with shame or anger: We do not like to fears, especially those which could be regarded as irrational. Women have there a whole lot easier than men! . (A woman is screaming for a spider so sweet and arouses male "protector instincts"
I think, before we deal with the fear of our dogs (or even unthinkingly obey any "tips"), it is important our own fear to look at: What am I really afraid of? How do I deal with my fear? What role does my fear of my life? What do I do if I notice that a fear of the situation is not appropriate? I am angry about my fear? I am ashamed for them? they will ask, perhaps even what they tell me - Or do I let my fear be there for once?
